Many of you have commented on the concept of "weariness" I spoke about recently in "The Realities of SOHO Living," wanting more clarity. Well, everyone gets tired and no matter how much you love what you do, there tend to be times when you'd rather be...(fishing, lying on a beach, taking a break, taking a job...there are hundreds of possibilities). The weariness comes from frustration when things don't go as planned or as quickly as planned. It comes when the problems you thought you solved years ago pop up again. It comes when we look across a fence and the grass looks greener. Weariness comes at the life moments when we question our meaning.

I have likened dealing with this weariness to the challenge of the entertainer who knows s/he must perform the fans' "favorites" at each and every concert. No matter you have to sing it nightly -- and keep it fresh -- for years on end. But then, again, it's not about you. It is about them.

I feel more powerful and less weary whenever I am engaged in actively serving others. Focusing on and helping them is key. Not thinking too much about my various "realities" and "situations" also helps because when I do, I usually put a "value" on the thought. Again, it is like the entertainer who can either ask, "How can I make this my best performance?" or "Why do I have to sing this song AGAIN?" The first purges weariness, the second invites it to linger.