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New Year's Resolutions
I don't recommend them and each year publish a variation of the following:
RESOLVED, that for the year 2008, I
____________________ will ____________. Lots of
people are making resolutions. You can, as
well. But study after study tells us that most
New Year's Resolutions don't last. Why? 1) The
timing is arbitrary, not tied to an immediate
concern; 2) People frequently make too many
resolutions - adding a little more to an already
full plate; 3) January and February, with their
"iffy" weather, can often be disruptive to your
regular schedule impeding a strong start. The
odds are against success - even with the best of
intentions. All of which leads us to failure,
frustration and fragmentation - yes, we fail and
end up feeling lousy about ourselves. It doesn't have to be.
In fact, I advise my clients, mentees and
friends, who ask, against making New Year's
Resolutions, and against making too many
commitments. Fewer commitments allow you to be
in the moment with those you do make and result in higher productivity.
Thought to Action: Make your commitments (aka
resolutions) when the time to commit is upon you
whenever that happens during the year. Limit
yourself to 3-5 intermediate term initiatives
(1-3 years) or 2-3 lifelong goals, or some
combination of the two, but never more than
5. Don't add another commitment until you have
an opening and celebrate your successes when they
happen. A closing quote comes to mind, "See
everything, overlook a great deal, improve a little." (Pope John XXIII)
NB ? In case you are interested, the Internet (I
do love it) tells us that the tradition of making
New Year's Resolutions began with the
Babylonians, whose most popular resolution
(according to my Internet source) was to return borrowed farm equipment.
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